Ebook: You're wearing that?: understanding mothers and daughters in conversation

Mothers and daughters do not speak different languages--but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Tannen explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.--From publisher description.;Can we talk?: Mothers and daughters in conversation -- My mother, my hair: caring and criticizing -- Don't shut me out: the importance of being female -- She's just like me, she's nothing like me: where do you end and I begin? -- Stop this conversation, I want to get off -- Wanted: Mother-a job description -- Best friends, worst enemies: a walk on the dark side -- "Oh mom ... BRB": how E-mail and instant messaging are changing relationships -- Blending intimacy and independence: new ways of talking.