Ebook: He's not lazy: empowering your son to believe in himself

"On the surface, capable teenage boys may look lazy. But dig a little deeper ... and you'll often find conflicted boys who want to do well in middle and high school but are afraid to fail, and so do not try. This book can help you become an ally with your son, as he discovers greater self-confidence and accepts responsibility for his future"-- Provided by publisher.;"Boys may seem impervious to school pressures, but they often fear failure so much that they totally opt out. [This book] helps parents understand-- and constructively handle-- the underlying issues affecting their sons . A renowned expert on ADHD explains how to deal with a conflicted boy who really wants to do well, discover hidden obstacles to his success, develop his confidence, and empower him to accept responsibility for his own future"--|cProvided by publisher.;Part I: He's not lazy. Let me reintroduce you to your son ; Shifting bodies, shifting minds ; If I only had a brain ; Leap before you look ; Big boys don't cry ; Too cool for school -- Part II: From conflict to change: the seeds of motivation. The paradoxical response and the plot for false independence ; Putting the self back in self-control ; Autonomy- a new way forward ; How to stop rescuing your son and start supporting his autonomy ; Helicopters, lawn mowers, and drones: why parents control their kids ; I think I can Connection -- Appendix: Homework predictor ; Backward planner ; The decision grid ; Exploring values ; The goal setter ; Worry log ; Thought journal.