Ebook: Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships

Draws upon the science of attachment theory to explain the misunderstood roots of suffering and how to achieve vibrant relationships by welcoming desire rather than suppressing it.;Off the cushion and into life -- Sacred longing : a doorway to connection -- We exist in relationship -- Clinging to what disconnects us : the root of suffering -- The anatomy of clinging -- Befriending clinging and craving -- A spirituality informed by attachment theory : is suffering caused by attachment or non-attachment? -- A psychology of liberation : working with longing -- Embracing the pleasures of relating -- The perils of positive thinking : embracing the non-rational forces within us -- Relishing life's pleasures and embracing our humanity -- Turning toward ourselves -- Intimacy as a spiritual experience -- Meditation as self-intimacy -- Narcissism versus interdependence -- The seduction of enlightenment -- Embracing feelings/embracing life -- Focusing: holding ourselves with loving-kindness -- Friendship : awakening in community -- Finding refuge in community -- Teachers and spiritual communities : trust your guru or yourself?