Ebook: Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Human beings are meant to work together, not to go it alone. We enter the world reliant on others for shelter, nutrition, and emotional support, and these core requirements to do not change as we grow older. Yet somehow, as we move into adulthood, our intrinsic need for emotional connection (i.e., love) gets discounted. This despite the fact that people who spend their lives "apart from" rather than "a part of" do not function as well as those who feel emotionally connected. Nowhere is this more apparent than when dealing with addiction. Nevertheless, loved ones of addicts, instead of being encouraged to care for themselves as well as their addicted loved one, are often encouraged to care for themselvesinstead oftheir addicted loved one.

"Prodependence," a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss and Stefanie Carnes to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial--with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present.

InProdependence, Weiss and Carnes present a research-based social and psychological understanding of human interdependence. This groundbreaking work presents a new paradigm for useful and healthy support, offering both the lay reader and professional an evolved prism through which they can examine, evaluate, and improve not just relationships affected by addiction (though that's the primary focus of this book), but relationships in general.